Monday, January 10, 2011


I am liberal.
Recently, I mentioned this to my conservative friend. I was warned that as an author, I should steer clear or be careful of that word. It will imply that I am...A LIBERAL!!!!
Merriam Webster's definition of liberal says in part: " of or befitting a man of free birth...marked by generosity : openhanded...given or provided in a generous and openhanded way..."

The definition of conservative reads in part: "of or constituting a political party professing the principles of conservatism: as (1) : of or constituting a party of the United Kingdom advocating support of established institutions... tending or disposed to maintain existing views, conditions, or institutions...marked by moderation or caution...c : marked by or relating to traditional norms of taste, elegance, style, or manners..."

Isn't interesting that these two terms have taken on derogatory meanings on both sides?

Though I call myself liberal, I am not so pleased with the Democratic party. The Republican party, in my humble opinion has become in the last decade, a total and complete embarrassment with little exception. Prior to January 2000 we as a nation have thrived despite the fact our government has been divided. Something changed in the new millennium. George Bush became the became our forty-third president and the unraveling began.

The time has come for Independents to finally gain some real momentum. With the Internet, independent politicians have the opportunity to reach millions of people via social networks at a fraction of the cost of traditional campaigns. We all know that the "A list" politicians will be financed by big business on both sides. That gets the major television time, robo calls, etc. Does anyone ever take the time to listen to those annoying robo calls, read the pamphlets? I don't. Consider the homeless TV announcer who's Youtube got twelve million hits in two days. If your message resonates, it's on every Facebook & Twitter page and passed in email We live in a virtual society that grows daily.

Our system is failing us. We are really the ones to blame. The American Government is SUPPOSED to be of the people and by the people. But we are too lazy, scared or uniformed to do anything other than complain. This is truly THE opportunity for the Independents, the ones that usually just got in the way of the BIG TWO. You need to be strong. You need to be smart. You need to make intriguing videos. You will get our attention. When we like what you have to say, we'll post it, email it - we will be your marketers. For better or worse, we have become social media minions.

This is my call to a strong Independent party that will speak to both sides. We all want the same thing. A nice home, a good education, dependable, affordable healthcare and the pursuit of happiness. We need a new way to govern. I don't have the answers but someone out there does.

We just need you to introduce yourself to us. We will help you. I promise. Pass this around if you agree.

Monday, January 3, 2011

Your Child Is Curious About Sex!

Recently I had a conversation with a thirty-eight year old mom with two small daughters about how she lost her virginity. She read my book THE VIRGIN DIARIES and like so many others, felt it is an important topic to discuss. She explained to me that much like most people in my book, she didn't get any guidance from her parents. She was only warned not to have sex. Her sex education came from her two older brothers when she was six years old. They told her sex was when a penis went into a vagina and she was horrified. At age thirteen, her girlfriend told her how great sex is and that losing your virginity was a wonderful experience, everyone was doing it. This woman felt peer pressure and decided to lose her virginity at thirteen with a seventeen year old boy who she barely knew, though to this day she can still remember his name. It was outside, it hurt and afterward she felt bad about her experience.

She expressed to me that she wants to be a better parent to her girls than her parents were to her where sex education is concerned. She also talked about how awkward it is to even think about but she would rather deal with awkwardness then to have her daughters experience a situation like hers.

In the book HE'S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU, author Greg Behrendt points out time and again that women should NOT see themselves as the exception but rather they should always see themselves as the rule. Behrendt advises us to MOVE ON. Stop waiting for the guy who never calls to ride up on his white horse.

I am offering the same advice to parents. Do not consider your kids to be the exception. Just because they may tell you they are not interested in sex or they aren't sexually active doesn't mean they are being totally honest with you. It is just as awkward for them. Think back to when you were thirteen, fourteen, fifteen and up. I'll bet you were interested in one of your peers and wondered what all the fuss was about sexually. Did you admit this to your parents? Did you admit that you were curious about kissing, getting to first base or farther? Did you even feel comfortable at all asking your parents about sex? Especially the feelings associated with it?

Your children are no different. They are curious and have questions and even though it feels strange to discuss sex with you, they do want and need guidance. As parents, you prepare your kids for college, driving, SATs and so much more. It is extremely important to prepare them for sex as well. Yet so many parents leave it to the media, school and other children to educate their own children about sex. In this day and age with technology, children have access to explicit pornography via the Internet. Kids really think they know all there is to know about sex. Perhaps they understand the mechanics but how much do they know about the feelings associated with sex, especially at a young age?

I encourage you to watch this video with three 15 year old girls discussing their thoughts on "the sex talk."
Read THE VIRGIN DIARIES  and leave it around where your children can find it. Let them know it's OK to ask questions and try not to judge or lay down harsh, unrealistic rules about it. They are just young humans who need to be guided. Don't let your child make a foolish choice and end up pregnant, with an STD or a humiliating first time because you felt too weird to talk about it.

The Virgin Diaries is only available online. Both in paperback as well as Kindle. The Kindle price is $2.99.
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