Wednesday, November 28, 2012

The Anti-Feminists

Susan Venker

There are a lot of women in America who are against feminism. They believe women should act like women, and ‘be true to our feminine nature.’  If we fail to do this, men won’t marry us. According to these women, we are destroying the country. Yeppers ladies, due to the fact we believe we deserve equal pay and want to control when and if we get pregnant, we are the in-house American terrorists.

Author Susan Venker accuses feminists—me— of having sex at ‘Hello.’ She has never met me and for her to assume this about me, or an entire group of women, is just completely ignorant and judgmental.  Venker recently wrote an article for FOX News titled The War On Men. She asserts that men have not changed much over time but women have changed dramatically. She says women are angry, defensive and that we’ve pushed men off their pedestal—now men have nowhere to go.

Before women were able to earn enough money to support ourselves and before we had the ability to choose if and when we become mothers, we had very little choice. Before the sexual revolution, being a divorced woman carried with it a very negative stigma—one where a woman was no longer worth anything because her marital status labeled her as damaged goods. Men dominated the work force and the jobs women worked, like secretaries and waitresses, didn’t provide enough income for a divorced woman, especially one with children, to live independently. So, if a woman was married to a man who was physically or emotionally abusive, a man who was unfaithful, or to a man she simply no longer wanted to be married to, her choices were so limited that she was often forced stay with him.

When women stood up and demanded freedoms like the right to vote, the right to earn as much as a man in the workplace and the right to choose whether or not to be a mother at any given time, we were labeled as angry and slutty. Because we could take a pill that prevented pregnancy, we were all of a sudden labeled as being loose. A woman who likes sex is a whore, a disgrace. This attitude is damaging enough when it comes from men but when it comes from women, it takes on a completely different meaning. It always reminds me of a battered woman who stays with her abuser because on some level she feels she deserves it. Venker and women who share her negative views on what women ‘should be’ are a danger because they help to keep all women from real equality.
Phyllis Schlafly
A perfect example of how these dangerous women have influence is Phyllis Schlafly, a politically conservative constitutional lawyer. Schafly opposed the ratifying of the Equal Rights Amendment in the 1970s with a campaign —STOP ERA. STOP stood for Stop Taking Our Privileges.  One of the ‘gender specific’ privileges she was trying to preserve was, ‘dependent wife.’  She was an outspoken opponent of feminism and the ERA, and her efforts to stop women from being equal in the Constitution proved successful.
Ann Coulter
Ann Coulter is a completely different kind of anti-feminist. Her messaging does not stem from the belief that all women should be obedient trophy wives. Coulter is actually a strong, unmarried feminist with a contradictory message. She is the author of books that are nasty, racist and mean-spirited. She’s on record saying that women should not be allowed to vote. The reason? If women didn’t vote, conservatives would always win.

Her sales approach is to go on news programs as a political pundit and make incendiary comments as a way to draw attention to her hateful books. An example is a recent guest appearance on Real Time With Bill Maher. Just weeks before the election, she accused Maher’s entire, liberal audience of being racist while promoting her latest book Mugged. If you are not familiar with Coulter’s work, here is the description for Mugged "
“This isn’t a story about black people—it’s a story about the Left’s agenda to patronize blacks and lie to everyone else.”

For decades, the Left has been putting on a play with themselves as heroes in an ongoing civil rights move­ment—which they were mostly absent from at the time. Long after pervasive racial discrimination ended, they kept pretending America was being run by the Klan and that liberals were black America’s only protectors.

It took the O. J. Simpson verdict—the race-based acquittal of a spectacularly guilty black celebrity as blacks across America erupted in cheers—to shut down the white guilt bank.

But now, fewer than two decades later, our “pos­tracial” president has returned us to the pre-OJ era of nonstop racial posturing. A half-black, half-white Democrat, not descended from American slaves, has brought racial unrest back with a whoop.

 Coulter knows how to cause controversy and her loyal followers reward her handsomely and flock to buy her books. They allow her to keep going and have a place on the national stage. During Bill Clinton’s speech at the Democratic National Convention, she tweeted “To get Bill Clinton to speak at the convention, Obama had to agree to carry his bags.” She also tweeted “Clinton just impregnated Sandra Fluke backstage.”
As you can see, Coulter herself comes off as angry and as long she has an audience, she has power and influence.

In this past election season, conservative women equated women’s rights with abortion. They criticized liberal women with the asinine argument that we were voting with only our lady parts and that all we wanted was free birth control. These women are liars and an embarrassment to women everywhere.

I could go on and list many other women who stand in the way of equality for women but that would be a book. It’s a matter of every woman deciding what it is she wants for herself, her life, her children’s lives and then voting accordingly.

Women can be strong and equal and also love men. I am one of them. I don’t love all men and there are definitely some men I wish to remove to remove from congress. Those men are against my equality and cast votes to prevent it. I would rather elect a man or woman who will enact laws and policies that enable equality for all.

Being a strong independent woman allows for freedom to choose a mate based on desire, not necessity. The women who promote feminism as an evil are negligent, irresponsible and are slowing down the process of equality for all.

This is precisely why you need to vote – in every election, including the ‘boring’ mid-term elections. People who didn’t vote in the 2010 mid-term elections, helped to allow for the obstructionists to dominate House of Representatives. This resulted in more than a thousand of pieces of anti-women legislation  from January 2011 until today.  Let’s not do it again.

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  1. One of the ways Schlafly got women to support her cause was by pointing out that their daughters -- as well as their sons -- might be called upon to fight on the front lines. Since women are doing that already, and not only braving the dangers of IEDs, snipers and other combat hazards, but also rape and sexual battery and abuse at the hands of their male commanders and comrades, that argument becomes at least a little less persuasive.

    1. Schlafly also said we would be losing custody of our children to thier fathers and would be paying child support and alimony if the ERA was passed. Well women lose custody (I did) and women pay child support (I did) and some women pay spousal support which is rare these days for either gender. The big difference is the constitution was never amended to clarify that women are equal under the law. Another thing to note about the ERA, several states voted on the measure twice. When the first votes supported the amendment, conservatives spread their misinformation and then convinced states to vote again. The second votes overwhelmingly disfavored the ERA. I always felt this should not have been allowed. It is like having another presidential election because Obama lost and the politically powerful wanted Romney. - Susan

  2. Catherine - That argument from 'the other side' sounds familiar, and I think I remember my own mother telling me that feminism would lead to women being drafted into wars alongside men, and that if feminism 'won,' I could one day be forced into the military if there was a war and die and any children I had would be motherless. When I was young, I admit was was pretty terrifying. Of course, the draft doesn't really exist anymore, but as I reflected on it later, I realized, "Wait a second... Forcing *anyone* die in a stupid war is kinda f*cked up anyway, regardless of gender." If anything, those arguments shouldn't have made anyone question feminism, but rather the war policies we had in place once upon a time.

  3. How *lucky* I must be to have found a man that was willing to marry me, feminist that I am. Heaven help him - I hate housework, can't stand cooking, and I even make him do his own laundry. It is a good thing I am a slut, otherwise I would just be another lonely, angry cat lady...smh

    I think the thing that gets me is all the hand-holding we women are told we should be doing, for our fragile husbands who can't have his manhood put into question or he will just fall apart. I see this all the time online - "20 ways to give your husband Confidence", "25 Ways to Pamper Your Man", even sites dedicated to creating themed dates for you and your husband. Umm, pretty sure it'd be a cold day in hell before my husband actively searched for articles about how to enhance my womanhood and make his life's mission coddling me...

    Marriage is a two-way street and my life doesn't revolve around making anyone happy and fulfilled except myself. Yes, part of that is taking care of my children and loving my husband, but it is a part and not the end-of and be-all of my being.

    1. Corey: Where can I find a woman like you, someone who takes respnsibility for her own orgasms. I appreciate your honest admission to "slatternity". I'm trying to use this word as much as possible to get it recognised by OED. It's an combination or "portmanteau" word between slattern and eternity. "I wanted to continue a relationship with my ex "Kalli", but I couldn't abide her slatternity." After a couple of rebound affairs, I've been celibate for over ten years. I'm a recycled virgin.Thank God for Internet Porn. She must truly be a woman. I just found my one and only ever HIV test for HIV1 and HIV2.It was from 2005/8/4 I don't like condoms.Latex allergy.I hope all my Zoosk contacts don't find me here. I've gotten much more picky and philosophical.I won't pay for any dating websites. Scientific or not, the percentages say that men should register for free.

  4. I am a woman with a variety of health problems who is currently dependent on my husband to provide for my financial, healthcare, transportation needs etc. I have no understanding what the f*** Schafly was talking about! Why would anyone volunteer for this as a "right"? And what drugs were the people who bought her argument on? I can't envision any law that would say my husband CAN'T take care of me, for heaven's sake. We'd both prefer that I hadn't gotten sick 8 years ago and become dependent on him. I still very strongly support all the women around the world that can make choices, and for the life of me do not understand these anti-feminists. Isn't life dull when everyone is the same?